The Art of saying “Sorry”
icon1 Haytham Alaa | icon2 Humanities | icon4 02 24th, 2007|
Alsalam alikom wa ra7mat Allah wa barakatoh

"I'm Sorry" when those simple words became so hard to be said !!! I just felt so yesterday.. I thought "Why don't u just send an email or an SMS saying 'I'm Sorry', does this cost u anything?" Actually this would cost nothing... but then I thought of them and... yes. Sometimes they cost.

When not to say "I'm sorry":
  • When you just said "yes, I did that to that person, cuz he just doesn't give me any room"... apology here may look like you are taking a backward step. Which may make you lose some ground...
When to say "Sorry":
  • When you feel you have mistaken. Saying "I'm Sorry" will make you feel more relaxed and believe it or not, in most cases it will make the other side less tension.
  • One important note, never never expect the other side to say "Okay, I forgive you" this is just an advice not to be surprised by their re-action or by refusal of your "sorry". Face it, you apologized, they refused, that's it.... You may try other ways, like convincing them you care about them. That whatever happens, you just don't want them to be annoyed of you.... etc
I've been mistaken to a lot of people recently... or let's rephrase it, a lot got annoyed of things I did or said to them recently... whether I agree/disagree with them, I just care about them.... will a "sorry" work here ?!!...

Some may believe I don't need to say "Sorry" and just change the attitude.... which is one of the choices I have... but nobody can change the past.... so maybe "Sorry" would make them write "Case Closed" on the past's file...... I hope!

Alsalam alikom wa ra7mat Allah wa barakatoh




Stressed ?…. a few tips to follow
icon1 Haytham Alaa | icon2 Humanities | icon4 02 24th, 2007|
Alsalam alikom wa ra7mat Allah wa barakatoh

For the past week, dozens of things happened... some where bad, some where great.. al 7amd lellah for both.

Today, I found an article that lists 52 tips to reveal the stress (or to avoid it)..
I picked 15 points:
  1. Do nothing which, after being done, leads you to tell a lie.
  2. Practice preventive maintenance. Your car, appliances, home, and relationships will be less likely to break down/fall apart "at the worst possible moment.
  3. Procrastination is stressful. Whatever you want to do tomorrow, do today; whatever you want to do today, do it now.
  4. Plan ahead. Don't let the gas tank get below one-quarter full; keep a well-stocked "emergency shelf" of home staples; don't wait until you're down to your last bus token or postage stamp to buy more; etc.
  5. Allow 15 minutes of extra time to get to appointments. Plan to arrive at an airport one hour before domestic departures
  6. Simplify, simplify, simplify. . .
  7. Make friends with non-worriers. Nothing can get you into the habit of worrying faster than associating with chronic worrywarts.
  8. When the stress of having to get a job done gets in the way of getting the job done, diversion - a voluntary change in activity and/or environment - may be just what you need.
  9. Learn to live one day at a time.
  10. Do something for somebody else.
  11. Become more flexible. Some things are worth not doing perfectly and some issues are fine to compromise upon.
  12. Eliminate destructive self-talk: "I'm too old to. . .," "I'm too fat to. . .," etc.
  13. Forget about counting to 10. Count to 1,000 before doing something or saying anything that could make matters worse
  14. Have a forgiving view of events and people. Accept the fact that we live in an imperfect world.
  15. Have an optimistic view of the world. Believe that most people are doing the best they can.
[Source] 52 Proven Stress Reducers

Alsalam alikom wa ra7mat Allah wa barakatoh




Do you have any questions ?
icon1 Haytham Alaa | icon2 Developing, Humanities, Recruiting | icon4 02 9th, 2007|
Alsalam alikom wa ra7mat Allah wa barakatoh

Have you made any interviews so far ? Probably yes. You should be familiar with this question then as most of interviews end up with this question.

Do you remember your answers ?
After ur 2-5-hour interview, the least thing u may need is such a question. All you might think of is "Home, sweet home" you just want to go back home to have lunch and sleep after all those technical/HR questions you faced today, and this is exactly where the trick is !!

Jenna Adorno (Technical Recruiter at MS) says:
"We evaluate your interest and passion for Microsoft, the job, and this industry by the
questions you ask, and no question is off-limits.
"

So, she suggests, never never never (she said it 5 times) not to say "no, I don't have any more questions", she adds "you make an exhaustive list of questions and have them ready." good suggestion I guess.

- Never feel "This is a fool question, just throw it away".
- Be friendly in you questions. Ask if you are already accepted.
- Ask about internal work, about the relations between developers.
- Don't ask about your salary, vacations.. etc (you will know about those anyway so no need to hurry).

Some questions suggested by WetFeet.com
  • "Can you give me an example or two of teamwork in action here?"
  • "How can I learn what I need to know about the organization's strategic plan?"
  • "Assuming you hire me, how would you like me to spend my first month here?"
  • "Have I said anything that causes you concern about my fitting in here?"

Here is Jenna's post about this topic.
And here is a nice article for your first round interview

Thanks,

Alsalam alikom wa ra7mat Allah wa barakatoh




Nosayba @ Morocco… 1
icon1 Haytham Alaa | icon2 ACM, Ifrane, Morocco | icon4 02 4th, 2007|
Alsalam alikom wa ra7mat Allah wa barakatoh,
Here is the first episode of Nosayba's diaries in Moroccos..

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My trip to Morocco


You’re going.. You’re not going.. No actually, you’re going!

There are situations in one’s life that can only be described with one word..”Miracle from God”..Umm..ok three words.

This was the thought that crossed my mind when I was told that our trip to Morocco was actually approved, and our chance of joining the competition together, me and my two best friends, is not gone forever. The reason we were so thankful for this trip is that 2 weeks prior to the competition we were told that Kuwait University did not approve the trip due to budget constraints or something like that. Of course, we felt great disappointment back then. It was a life time opportunity to travel with your best friends for the first time –and the last- before graduation, and join such an interesting competition.

So, as I said, 2 weeks before day zero we stopped any practicing –as if- , we had only practiced before that for 2 short sessions, and that was it, and we prepared ourselves for another trip to Turkey instead, to make it up to ourselves... Just kiddin’.

The miracle..

2 days before the competition, some miracle happened. One of my friends who has been insisting on going to the Univeristy Dean (The Big guy), and talking to him personally about our little problem, provided she was his student one day, got the chance to meet him. And after listening to her complain he promised her that the budget problem would be solved. So there we were.. 4 or 5 days away from the competition date, 2 days away from the traveling day, not knowing if we will make it or not. To be honest, I doubted it.

Day minus one:

It was pretty awkward.. when my parents asked me, “So, dear. Are you traveling tomorrow to Morocco or not?”.. I didn’t know back then what to answer, and frankly, I didn’t know what I wanted either. It was one of the situations where you start asking yourself, “Do I really know what’s going to end up for my best eventually?”. What if the trip was cancelled, this was definitely a situation where your submission to God’s will is being tested. I didn’t want to object on what God wanted for me. If we are not meant to join the competition then for sure something else better is waiting for us somewhere else, or a harmful thing is being pushed away from our way. Yes, it is Destiny.

Day zero

Finally, on Wednesday, 29th of November, at 11:00AM I was told “Pack your Bag, be in the airport at 7:00pm” (If Im not mistaken). And so I did.

When I reached the airport, I met the dr who was going to accompany us for the first time, and the other team, I knew only one of the guys. We were also introduced to a female supervisor “Mrs Amany”, who had to accompany us –the girls- due to some constraints in Kuwait University regarding such trips. She was pretty nice to us, a little panicking but no problem, she was really sweet, and carried a bag full of different kinds of chocolates and biscuits.. Did I mention she was “sweet”, I meant her bag...

A little more about my team..

Lama is palestanian, CS senior, Khadige is Lebanese, Electrical Engineering senior, and Im proudly Egyptian, Computer Engineering senior student. We represented Kuwait University team.. –Yeah, go figure!-. The three of us, Walhamdulellah, are first students on our dof3a, each in her own major. This made drs, TAs and colleagues put high expectations on our performance in the competition. It was disappointing to think about that during that trip, knowing that we haven’t practiced at all for the competition, and weren’t prepared for it. Having a high GPA doesn’t mean you’re a good ACM programmer, but tell that to the people, tell that to the governments, tell that to the mass destructive weapon makers!..bluh.

I’d be very thankful if we got one problem solved, but I’d be quite happy if we solved four” I thought to myself while we were on the plane. Oh I forgot to mention that our first flight was to Dubai. We had to stay in Dubai Airport for 8 hours, then take another flight to Casablanca. The 8 hours started well, we had dinner, then some coffee. Afterwards we had aimless walks around Dubai airport..it wasn’t the first time I went there, its not so bad. The best thing was the company of my great amigos.. until it was 4 am in the morning and we desperately needed somewhere to sleep. We went to pray Fajr in the musallah and get some rest, we didn’t know that sleeping in the musallah was forbidden.. but at the time nobody kicked us out. I couldn’t sleep anyway..

I could use some sleep right now though.. I’ll continue this later on..

Salam alaykom..

Nosayba.

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Thanks Nosayba.




Regional ACM 2006… Memories
icon1 Haytham Alaa | icon2 ACM, ANARC, Ifrane, Morocco | icon4 02 2nd, 2007|
Alsalam alikom wa ra7mat Allah wa barkatoh

It's 8 days since I last posted a message here... so long ;)

Let me go to the subject..
My first thing to mention (cuz of circumstances other than being the 1st priority ;)) is about students in the competition..
When u go to the Regionals, u will meet 100+ new faces to u all share the same thing with u "They love to get AC". This doesn't happen even in ur faculty, ur department, u always find people with different orientations sitting beside u listening to the same lectures u listen to..
Anyway, it's a totally different feeling when u find everybody speaking about problems (ACM ones) and algorithms, codes, bugs, etc. It's just a dream comes true ;)

On the contest day, we went in, found our table (with Egypt's Flag on it) then one of my friends asked me "Where can u find the Help for Java?"
I replied "Java !! will u use java? or what".. While browsing My Computer to try to find the help for him..
He said "No, but the team behind us wants to.."
I looked behind to find three girls with Kuwait Flag on their table.. and they were waiting the answer :D
We managed to guide them to the JavaDoc (It was on the desktop in a compressed file (A) )

After returning home, few days passed, I found someone commenting on one of my posts saying that she is named Nosayba and she was one of those 3 girls in the previously mentioned team.

We have contacted each other after that and I asked her to send me her articles about Morocco Days... she sent two articles (not the complete story)
and I'll be posting them starting by today's evening In Shaa Allah.

Ah, one last thing, despite of her name, she is Egyptian ;)

Stay tuned

Alsalam alikom wa ra7mat Allah wa barakatoh